Feel Good Fridays: How to stay motivated to achieve your goals

26 03 2010

I know first hand that it can be difficult to remain motivated when working towards a goal- sometimes I feel discouraged, overwhelmed or just plain tired; I’m sure you sometimes feel the same way.

Last week, I saw an article by Shine staff member, Sarah McColl, with six ways you can stay motivated so you can achieve your goals:

Be specific. On a sheet of paper, write your goal at the top in big letters. If your goal is to exercise more, don’t just write “Exercise more”; be as specific as possible. For instance, write things like making it to the gym three times a week or being able to run a half marathon in a few months. By making your goal as quantifiable as possible, you’ll know exactly when you’ve accomplished it.

Remember why you’re doing this in the first place. McColl says when the going gets tough, the tough remember the initial reasons they wanted to achieve something. So, underneath the goal you’ve written on that sheet of paper, write all the reasons you want to accomplish that particular goal. Using the “exercise more” example, maybe you want to look and feel good in your clothing or you want to tone your body. Make your list as thorough as possible so on those days when you don’t feel like working out, one of your reasons will get you going.

Assemble a personal cheer squad. When we were kids, we always looked up to somebody, whether it was a sports star, an actress or an older cousin. But as some of us get older, we stop looking up to others. However, it’s important to remember that adults need someone to aspire to as well; so, build a team of role models. They can be real individuals in your life, celebrities or other successful individuals in the limelight or fictional characters. When you don’t have much motivation, McColl suggests picturing your supporters gathered around you, cheering you on and pushing you to greater heights than you could ever achieve on your own.

Check out the other three tips: 6 ways to stay motivated so you can achieve your goals.


Feel Good Fridays: Simplify your Life

26 02 2010

If you’re like most people, you probably have many responsibilities and things to do in your daily life. And, of, course, these things can, and often do, make us feel stressed and overwhelmed. Well, here are five ways to simply your life from Yana Berlin, creator of fabulously40.com.

  1. Observe the clutter you have. Keep a healthy outlook on what’s really important so you can remember what truly matters. If your calendar is overflowing with many appointments and dates, you’ll be overwhelmed by all you have to do. By sorting through your possibilities and actively taking out appointments, you can clear your head so you have more time to focus on friends, family and most importantly, you.
  2. Find and follow your passion. Take time to do what you really enjoy. Now is a great time to pursue a hobby you love, take a class or learn something you new.
  3. Learn to savor–not rush through life. One way to find pleasure in your life is slow down long enough to be grateful for things as they happen.
  4. Stop obsessing and worrying about the future. Of course, you can plan (and should, in my opinion) for the future, but it’s important to remember that you are living now. By discovering the beauty in this moment, we will remember how valuable ever minute is.
  5. Give up some of your control. Even though I struggle with this, Berlin says our happiness shouldn’t depend on your plans going off without a hitch. Life is full of them, and hitches keep things interesting. If you stop insisting on complete control over your life, you obtain flexibility that will make adjusting to change easier and simpler.

Photo from: synergyprg.com

Have a great weekend, ladies (and gents)!

10 Habits of Highly Successful Women

6 01 2010

I read this a while back on Black Hair Media. I saw it again yesterday, so I decided to share with you all. Hope this helps someone!  (It was written by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen of See Jane Soar!)

  1. Maintain your hormonal balance. Are you moody, exhausted, irritable or sad? Check your hormones. If they’re out of whack, you’ll struggle to be successful! Make sure you’re getting enough protein and vitamins and decrease your refined sugars and carbs.
  2. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Highly successful women don’t obsess or feel guilty about past choices or failures. They make mistakes, move on and apply what they’ve learned to new situations.
  3. Connect with who you are. Being a daughter, wife or mother is one aspect of your life. It doesn’t define who you are as a woman. To connect with who you are, find and express your authentic self. The more authentic you are, the more appealing you’ll be to others- and to yourself!
  4. Avoid energy vampires. Do you feel drained or sad after spending time with a particular friend, coworker or relative? Limit the time you spend with him or her. Note how you feel after visiting with a certain person; if you feel energized and happy, then you’re in good company. Highly successful women choose their companions wisely.
  5. Speak kindly to yourself! If you beat yourself up for being overweight, a “bad” mom or not exercising enough, you just create a downward spiral. Highly successful women remind themselves of their achievements and successes. They refuse to tell themselves negative things; they accept themselves.
  6. Listen to your body. I heard Oprah Winfrey say this about 10 years ago: listen to what your body is telling you. Are you emotionally hungry or physically hungry? Feed yourself yourself properly. Are you sad, furious or depressed? Follow your body’s cues.
  7. Volunteer your time. Find something that takes you out of your comfort zone or that you love to do. You’ll feel great that you’re helping others out- and volunteering directly improves your physical health. Highly successful women step out of their comfort zones and takes risks.
  8. Let go of perfectionism. Strive to do your best, but let go of perfectionist tendencies. Accepting that you’re doing the best you can is a habit of highly successful women. Letting go of perfectionism is vitamins and exercise for the soul!
  9. Use your core strengths. Are you a natural mathematician, writer or party planner? Discover your core strengths by trying different things until you find what fits. To take risks and try new things, take short-term volunteer positions, volunteer for new projects at work or in your community.
  10. Take time for yourself. This habit for highly successful women is my favorite: take time to recharge your batteries and refuel your emotional, spiritual and physical energy. Spend at least a few minutes alone each day- even if you have to lock yourself in the bathroom to do it!

Photo from shutterstock.com

My Quote of the Day- November 2

2 11 2009

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing- that’s why we recommend it daily.

~Zig Ziglar




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Do you know your personal value?

10 07 2009

Personal values aren’t the same as ‘values’- values have more to do with how you relate to your environment, according to this Ann Naylor of The Huffington Post.

Instead, if you asked yourself: What does positive attitude or positive state of mind mean to me?, you would have your personal philosophy. Being honest or wanting to give back to the community falls under personal values.

And personal value is the term Naylor uses for inner strength: “your innate essence or the human spirit that sustains you throughout your life. [It] has more to do with who you are than how you act or behave.”

Developing your inner strength has many benefits. It helps you accomplish your goals and objectives and assists you in being motivated and creative.

The following can help you build your inner strength:

  1. Take time to look within.
  2. Affirm your qualities.
  3. Make agreements you know you can keep.
  4. Learn to say ‘no’.
  5. Accept, appreciate and love yourself through difficulties.
  6. Be forgiving.
  7. Prize yourself.
  8. Do what gives you happiness.
  9. Focus on the positive.
  10. Relax and be patient.
  11. Be open for the best.
  12. Say thank you to life.

And remember, What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality. (Plutarch)

Read more here: Anne Naylor: 12 Ways to Build Your Inner Strength

Rules to Live By

3 06 2009

Hola, girls!

I was looking through papers [again], and I saw a list of rules to live by I printed out. It came from the beautiful women of nappturality.com, a website for people who wear their hair naturally. Of course, as usual, I had to share:

  • When you wake up in the morning, complete the following statement, ‘My purpose is to _____ today.’
  • Try to make at least three people smile today.
  • Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
  • Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  • Don’t compare your life to others.
  • Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?’
  • Forgive everyone for everything.
  • What other people think of you is none of your business.
  • Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  • Each night before you go to bed, complete the following statements: ‘ I am thankful for____; Today I accomplished _____.
  • Keep positive people around you.
  • Don’t go to sleep mad.
  • Treat yourself well once in awhile, be it reading, walking, loafing around watching TV, being quiet or doing absolutely NOTHING. Sometimes you need a break from everything and everyone.
  • If other people can’t get their ish together, stop trying to save them. Save yourself first.
  • When you ask someone for the truth, be ready to accept it because remember, you asked.
  • Take time out to literally breathe. Inhale deeply, exhale deeply. As we get older, we shorten out breaths and don’t take time out to breathe.
  • If you own a car, purposely get lost. You might find new and interesting areas in your town that you never knew about. –> Make sure you have enough gas first!
  • When you find your self doubting your potential in anything, re-affirm, ‘I know that I deserve _____ and keep repeating it until there is no room for negativity, just positive action.
  • Have a good laugh at least once a day. Be silly.
  • 98% of what you think is your ish probably isn’t your ish. Recognize the ways in which others [parents, friends, acquaintances, strangers, mainstream media, society in general] put their ish on you and learn to push it back [gently if you want].
  • Everytime you find yourself thinking ‘That’s not the kind of thing I can/would do’, stop and ask yourself ‘Why not?’ And if there’s no good answer, and it will add something positive to your life, then go do it.
  • Reframe negatives as positives, burdens as blessings: e.g. ‘Why the f*** do I have to be studying this boring crap for this useless exam!? I hate my life.

Instead say, I am so grateful for the opporunity to study, the desire and ability to learn, the libraries, books, websites and teachers that are a resource for me, and the fact that  tomorrow I will know more than I do today.

  • God grant me the serenity to accept the people I can change, the courage to change the one person I can change and the wisdom to remember that one person is me.

Words to Live By- [May 21]

21 05 2009

“Allow yourself to know you are the power within you to be and have all you desire.”

~another one of my affirmations