Question of the Week- March 29

29 03 2010

Happy Monday! Last week’s question was about haters, and on Facebook, I asked:

Why do some people always talk about their “haters?” Do they really think they have something someone else wants?

One of the comments stood out. The person basically said that people hating on you is motivation, the person goes on to ask would we or how much would we strive if it weren’t for haters helping us stay focused.

I can somewhat understand the first part. I can see people using ‘haters’ to stay motivated; it’s like you want to prove them wrong and show them you can be successful.

However, I don’t agree with last part. I don’t do what I do- work on my goals- because I feel like someone is hating; I do it because it’s my purpose, and it’s what I love. And actually, I find that my motivation comes from myself and from positive and encouraging people, not negative ones.  So, this week’s question:

Do you need/want haters to motivate you?

As always, I love hearing from you, so answer away!


Question of the Week- March 22

22 03 2010

If you are a Facebook friend of mine, you might have seen me have a status or two about the word ‘hater.’ I don’t like it. Well, it’s not the word itself that I have a problem with, per se. It’s just that, to me, people over and misuse it.

For instance, if I don’t like Rhianna’s hair, that doesn’t make me a hater- that just means I don’t care for her hairstyle. Period.

My e-friend, LaKesha, wrote a post about this on her blog last week (check it out here). The whole post was great, but I love the advice she gives at the end:

“Stop running around talking about your haters this and your haters that…the time YOU spend worrying about them could be time spent doing something more productive in your own life.”

I say all that to ask the question(s) of the week:

How do you feel about the word ‘hater?’

What does ‘hater’ mean?

Do you think people who always talk about ‘their’ haters really have haters?

Question of the Week: Women & Friendship- March 8

8 03 2010

Happy Monday, chicas!

I’ve had this idea for a post for a while, but I just haven’t written it yet (and this isn’t it haha). The topic? Women and friendship.

As I’m sure we all know, many women have issues with other women. We (generally speaking) are often catty and rude to each other (and often for no apparent reason); we’re jealous, give the new girl a dirty look, eye her up and down, say, “She think she’s cute.” And just don’t like her for no reason at all. And, oh yeah, we have the “I don’t have female friends” crew, too.

So, my question(s): Does this topic even matter?

Why are a lot of women (in your opinion) unnecessarily rude/catty/b***hy towards each other?

If you’re a woman who “doesn’t have female friends” or “don’t like females”, why?

Feel free to answer all or one (or two!). I would love to hear your thoughts on this; I’m writing a post later on this week with my thoughts and opinions.