If you haven’t heard…

23 02 2010

…or seen on Facebook or Twitter, I’m engaged!

Even though the date isn’t ’til next year, I’ll be blogging about my plans over on my loc blog, Mocha’s Locs (I have one post already). And check out the wedding website I created if you’re just that interested in us lol ; ) Just click here.

Any tips/advice are welcome and appreciated!


My Quote of the Day- November 12

12 11 2009

“It must be borne in mind that the tragedy of life does not lie in not reaching your gaol. The tragedy of life lies in having no goal to reach.”

~Benjamin E. Mays


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Words to Live By- July 5

5 07 2009

“Success is achieving goals that only you can set for yourself.”

~Amy Dubois Barnett

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Words to Live By- [May 17]

17 05 2009

“I am worthy and deserving of anything and everything I want in my life.”

~one of my daily affirmations

Anita Charlot: Changing lives through coaching

18 02 2009

acharlotphuIf someone were to ask you who you really were, how would you answer? Would you say marketing executive, teacher, mother, daughter? What if someone asked you to dig deeper, to the core of you?


Anita Charlot, metaphysical and transformational life coach, has been helping people answer those questions since 2000 through her company, Purrfect Harmony Unlimited, a business that empowers, entertains and informs through activities like workshops, retreats, mentoring and more.


The idea for Purrfect Harmony Unlimited was realized when Charlot was seeking a therapist during a difficult life change-she had gone from dating men to seeing women. But when she tried to discuss her intimacy and trust issues, many therapists didn’t understand her struggle.


She also recognized other women probably shared the same feelings and could probably benefit from having someone really understand what they were going through.


‘Why don’t I become that person for people like myself?’ Charlot asked herself.  PHU was created with the motto, harmonizing your life, one area at a time.


“Through years of experience, I have come to realize that there are a very limited number of materials, products and services that attempt to speak directly to the lesbian and bisexual mothers’ experience,” Charlot says.


PHU aspires to bring self-awareness and healing to both the gay and straight community. This is done by openly discussing life experiences and sharing very intimate details that will give information concerning the struggles and triumphs we all encounter daily.


The company has since evolved, and now serves men, business clients and organizations.


“It is the vision of the company not to be exclusive to the lesbian and bisexual mother but to speak out on behalf of the empowerment of all women, no matter what that entails,” Charlot says.


She believes life and the journey to self-awareness are based on the destination, and they both are learning experiences.


“I know that it’s a destination, but on the way to the destination, there are so many different things you can learn about yourself and your teammates- if it’s a business area or relationship,” she says. “Really understanding who you are and exactly what you want and being okay with that will always lead to a more connected relationship, whether it’s a friendship, dating situation, marriage or family situation.”


And knowing who you are helps you in every aspect of your life, including dating and business relationships, says Charlot.


“When it comes to dating, when you know who you are, you’ve identified what’s important to you in terms of the type of person (you want), that way you don’t waste time on unnecessary dating situations,” she says.


“(In business relationships), it helps you determine whether or not you can take a certain job, or if it feeds your spirit.”


Self-awareness is the company’s main focus, according to Charlot, and she assists people in doing so with her “tell-it-like-it-is” approach.


“At times, the whole truth is what a person needs to hear to break through the persona that they have created,” she says. “My ability to cut through the layers of a person’s personality and reach their spirit is a direct result of years of being kept silent, struggling with who I was inside for the benefit of my family as well as society.


“Since I’ve lived most of my years as a mere shadow of myself, it is very easy for me to detect others who are doing the same thing.”


PHU offers several topics to awaken your inner spirit. Her program teaches you how to identify:

  • Hidden parts of yourself that have staggered your growth,
  • How you continuously give your energy and your personal power to those that don’t deserve it,
  • What your life’s passion is and the steps to take in order to turn your life’s passion into your life’s work,
  • And more.


Charlot is also available for individual coaching, organizational and corporate keynote presentations and workshops ranging from one hour to multi-day programs. The presentations can be customized for your group. Topics for these are:

  • Discovering Your Purrfectly Authentic TM Self
  • Purrfectly Authentic ™ Communication
  • The 5 Phases of Dating ™ and
  • The 7 Principles of Living Your Life Purrfectly Authentic ™.


She also does public speaking, individuals and couples coaching and Purrfectly Authentic Communication, which is a 10-session communication program that helps couples to identify where there is a breakdown in communication and how to rebuild it.


“My passion is to show each and every person that I come in contact with that their Purrfectly Authentic voice is the only voice in which they should use,” Charlot says. “We are born with this ability which is evident in how children often say exactly what’s on their mind prior to being conditioned as to what to say and what not to say for various reasons.


“It is only when we are guided back to our “child-like” nature and are born again into our true selves, do we learn to speak from our truth. We have played the game for so long…that somewhere inside, we got lost. It is my passion and purpose to help you find that again.”


For more information about Anita Charlot and her services, you can visit her website: www.purrfectharmonyinc.com or email her at intuitivepsyd@gmail.com.

Family says police brutalized man, Hartwell, GA

17 02 2009

I know we’ve all heard the stories of police brutality and excessive force they sometimes use (Rodney King and Sean Bell come to mind). This type of thing really makes me angry, so I was very upset and disappointed that this happened in my hometown of Hartwell, GA. A town that’s pretty small; so small that many Georgians have never heard of it. I’ll leave my opinion out of it, but you can read the story by clicking the link:


Happy Birthday, NAACP!

12 02 2009


Today marks the 100th anniversary of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People, the nation’s oldest, largest and most familiar grassroots–based civil rights organization. The organization has more than a half-million members and supporters world wide.


 The NAACP was created in part as a reaction to the on-going practice of lynching and the 1908 race riot in Springfield, Illinois. Early members included white liberals and Black individuals like W.E.B. DuBois, Ida B. Wells-Barnett and Mary Church Terrell).


The organization’s goal was to obtain the rights expressed in the 13th, 14th and 15th Amendments for everyone (13th-promise to end slavery; 14th– equal protection under the law; 15th– the right to vote for all males.


The main objective is to ensure the political, educational, social and economic equality of minority groups citizens of the U.S. and eliminate race prejudice. It seeks to remove all hurdles of racial discrimination through the democratic processes.

One of the NAACP’s greatest and most well-known achievement  was the NAACP Legal Defense Fund’s quest to end segregation in public schools. In case of Brown v. Board of Education (1954), the Supreme Court justices unanimously decided that separate educational facilities for black and white students were “inherently unequal.”

For more info on the NAACP, check out their website: http://www.naacp.org.