Feel Good Fridays: How to stay motivated to achieve your goals

26 03 2010

I know first hand that it can be difficult to remain motivated when working towards a goal- sometimes I feel discouraged, overwhelmed or just plain tired; I’m sure you sometimes feel the same way.

Last week, I saw an article by Shine staff member, Sarah McColl, with six ways you can stay motivated so you can achieve your goals:

Be specific. On a sheet of paper, write your goal at the top in big letters. If your goal is to exercise more, don’t just write “Exercise more”; be as specific as possible. For instance, write things like making it to the gym three times a week or being able to run a half marathon in a few months. By making your goal as quantifiable as possible, you’ll know exactly when you’ve accomplished it.

Remember why you’re doing this in the first place. McColl says when the going gets tough, the tough remember the initial reasons they wanted to achieve something. So, underneath the goal you’ve written on that sheet of paper, write all the reasons you want to accomplish that particular goal. Using the “exercise more” example, maybe you want to look and feel good in your clothing or you want to tone your body. Make your list as thorough as possible so on those days when you don’t feel like working out, one of your reasons will get you going.

Assemble a personal cheer squad. When we were kids, we always looked up to somebody, whether it was a sports star, an actress or an older cousin. But as some of us get older, we stop looking up to others. However, it’s important to remember that adults need someone to aspire to as well; so, build a team of role models. They can be real individuals in your life, celebrities or other successful individuals in the limelight or fictional characters. When you don’t have much motivation, McColl suggests picturing your supporters gathered around you, cheering you on and pushing you to greater heights than you could ever achieve on your own.

Check out the other three tips: 6 ways to stay motivated so you can achieve your goals.


My Quote of the Day- November 20

20 11 2009

Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.”

~Ella Fitzgerald




Life & Death

5 10 2009

As many of you know, my uncle passed last week. His funeral was Sunday; two things amazed me: 1) How many people attended and the number of people that knew him; and 2) How many lives he had touched during his lifetime.

As everyone got up and told their stories, I was thinking that’s the kind of life I want to live; I want to touch people’s lives like that. Uncle Harold was a teacher for thirty years, a ranger at the Corps of Engineers, and he drove a school bus. And it seemed like wherever he was, he was an inspiration, and when I die at 102, I want people to feel that way about me.

His passing and funeral also made me start to think that I should spend more time with my loved ones, and I should try my best every day to live a full and happy life. I pretty much have tried to live that way, but I’m really going to make a more conscious effort to do so.

Anyway…Rest in Peace Uncle Harold




Words to Live By- September 30

30 09 2009

“If you don’t go after what you want you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.”




Successful Sistas: Tawana Necole

18 09 2009

Successful Sistas is an interview series featuring successful women pursuing their dream careers.

Corporate chic 2Job Title: CEO of Corporate Chics, LLC and Sisters Striving for Excellence, Inc. (tawananecole.info, corporatechics.net, sistersstrivingforexcellence.org)

Job Description: Chief Executive Officer (CEO) of the company and the organization; it involves overseeing the establishments of a yearly agenda, ensures initiaitives are executed and determines executive decisions in cases where it is deemed necessary and in the best interest of the company and organization.

Why did you decide to pursue this field? I am a natural born leader (literally). I am the first-born with two younger sisters, so leading and helping others are two things that I have always done. It comes naturally, and it’s something that I’ve always wanted to do. I am a strong advocate for utilizing your gifts and talents and that, in turn, will become your resource.

I decided to pursue something that makes me happy and allows me to be me. I am filled with peace, and I don’t stress because I know that I am in the will of God for my life.

What do you love most about your job? I love being my own boss! I don’t take myself too seriously and that helps with building relationships and making great connections. I also don’t have to deal with the politics of working in a corporate arena. I set my own hours, and I work when I am able to. I don’t have to worry about being late or missing a day if my child is sick. I am not “scheduled” to work certain hours; I am not a threat to anyone- my work and credentials speak for who I am. I don’t have to conform to the culture of a company and how it’s ran, and the list goes on and on.

What is the most stressful aspect of your job? The “balancing act” is the most stressful. Coporate Chics is a new company and brand, therefore marketing it properly is vital and is the only way to become successful. However, I am a mother to a three-month-old and a three-year-old, so considering my kids and providing them with the quality time needed is sometimes hectic. But through great organizational skills,  I am beginning to master Multi-tasking (that’s right, with a capital M!)

What is the most rewarding aspect of your job? Being able to connect a woman with someone who possibly could help with her business or career brings me so much joy. Helping others start a business or mentoring a young female by providing direction and focus on her vision is not only rewarding, I feel like it is my purpose and part of my destiny. Being of service to others and helping them focus their dreams and actually coaching them into making it a reality ensures success, and everyone benefits. I never want to climb the ladder alone.

What is the craziest thing that’s happened at work? Any obstacle or barrier is always seen as an opportunity to grow. A few weeks ago, I received an email from someone asking for some assistance with self-esteem. Well, when I contacted this anonymous person, he or she was interested knowing about some type of vintage corset. The person began to explain that he/she had surgery to enhance his/her breast size and needed it because his/her body was really not portioned properly. Being a nanny as well as other off-the-wall topics came up; however, I politely explained the type of business services I provide and got off the phone shaking my head! It was scary and crazy, but I was professional and that helped me overcome and not say the wrong thing.

Describe a typical day at work for you. A typical day involves responding to emails or emailing potential prospects or sponsors, updating material for social media networks, conference calls, planning and executing certain projects, assisting individuals in my network, updating both websites, tweeting, blogging and producing material for marketing the brand or the nonprofit organization.

What advice or tips would you give someone who wants to do what you do? Being focused, determined and ambitious is extremely important. You can not allow anything to stop you from pursuing your goals. Believe that no matter what happens or how things look, you must strive to make your dreams a reality. You will be told no (at first) more than you are told yes, but if you keep knocking on doors, you will eventually receive that one yes. And that one ‘yes’ will trump all of the people that didn’t believe in you or told you no.

Finish this sentence: This career is for you if: you have faith




Some inspiration, perhaps

22 06 2009

Yesterday, I was feeling kind of…eh. So, I decided I should read one of the books I turn to for inspiration; I picked up Get Yours…by Amy Dubois Barnett.

When I read books, I always highlight things that I think are important and that I should remember. As I was reading yesterday, I found other things I overlooked the first [or second, or third time reading it]…anyway, I, of course, decided to share [some] with you all:

The following is Dubois’s personal philosophy- she calls them seven simple rules that ultimately saved her life:

  1. Embrace fear as growth
  2. Be true to yourself.
  3. Realize your value and demand the best.
  4. Put into the universe what you want to get back.
  5. Have integrity.
  6. Stay independent.
  7. Do something meaningful everyday.

She goes on to say she’s developed what she calls the ‘get yours’ school of thought. This is what she means:

“Get the absolute most out of this life that you possibly can. Figure out what your real passions are and who you want to be- and stay true to that always. Push yourself toward your best life every single day in every single area- health, career, family, friends and relationships. Commit to your dreams: Know that realizing them won’t be easy, but that the satisfaction you will feel after having worked toward something important will be as fulfilling as achieving the goal. And understand that energy is real and the universe is more sensitive than you think. Be generous and patient and kind-not only because it’s your responsibility as a citizen of the world, but because you will receive tenfold what you give in return.”

Although I’ve been doing some of these, I’m going to try to do all of them so I can live my best life. What about you?

Successful Sistas: Dirty Dish Towels

27 05 2009

Successful Sistas is an interview series featuring successful women pursuing their dream careers.

dirty dish towels groupJob Title:  [Vicki is] Co-owner of Dirty Dish Towels with her three sisters [www.dirtysdishtowels.com]

Job Description: Designer of funny and naughty embroidery designs, seamstress, embroider, web design and marketing.

Why did you decide to pursue this field? It was just an idea we had that sounded like fun. We researched online and found it to be a unique idea. After countless bottles of wine and laughter, we brought it to life online. We all have other full-time jobs as well.

What do you love most about your job?  The creatve process is fun, and I enjoy the humor that we add to the every day kitchen work. An added bonus is the aprons are really cute as well as being a bit naughty!

What is the most stressful aspect of your job? Right now, we only have one embroidery machine, so I’m the only one doing that portion and most of the sewing , so when we have a bunch of orders, it can get a little stressful. We hope to add another embroidery machine for one of my sisters; and they are starting to do some of the aprons on borders on the towels so that helps quite a bit.

What is the most rewarding aspect of your job? The finished product is so cute and hearing from our customers how much they like it is very rewarding.

What is the craziest thing that’s every happened at work? Well, I have pictures posted on Flikr and belong to different apron groups on there. It seems that there a lot of “men” that like to wear aprons and take nasty pictures of themselves wearing women’s aprons doing nasty things, and it’s all just a little too icky, so I have had to block them. I don’t know, maybe I shouldn’t, but I just don’t want to think of them wearing one of my aprons for their photo shoots and extracurricular activities. They call themselves sissy maids.

Descibe a typical day at work for you. Well… I work full time at my other job…this is more on the weekends and nights that I’m not working there. I enjoy trying a new apron pattern and bringing a new embroidery design to life for a towel, although that can take hours and hours to get it just right.

 What advice or tips would you give to someone who wants to do what you do? Well, we have definitely been flying by the seat of our pants here with none of us knowing anything about web design or running an online business, so I would say to definitely do some research or take some classes on that. We have been doing some marketing on Twitter, MySpace, Flikr, Facebook and Etsy so finding all you can about these and/or other social networking sites would be beneficial as well.

Finish this sentence: This is the career for you if__: This is the career for you if you have small children at home and you want to be able to stay home with them and you don’t need to make a lot of money. We are a fledgling business here, and it takes a while to get your name out there and gain some recognition before the orders really start pouring in.