Get a fresh start for spring

30 03 2010

In the April issue of Essence, they give 40 ways to get a fresh start for spring. And yes, I know the official date of spring has come and gone, but I wanted to share a few with you because I think they’re helpful [hope you think so, too!]

Refuse to wait another day! Start small but start now. If you haven’t already, record goals for the remainder of the year.

Go on vice patrol. Life coach and clinical psychologist Pamela Thompson offers an exercise that can help you break bad habits and radically alter your perspective. “I often recomend spring-cleaning the heart and mind with a fast,” she says. That means for 21 days, her clients give up one or more of the following: complaints, gossip, sex outside of marriage, screens [including TV, movies and even their computer or Blackberry if they can manage it] and unnecessary spending. By the time you end the fast, she explains, you’ll reset your life. [I plan to try one of these in April; I’ll keep you posted.]

Forgive someone. Before we can push out new roots and shoots in our lives, we have to clear mental debris that can choke off our dreams. Often that means forgiving some people in your life, says motivational speaker Bessie A. Winn-Afeku, who runs an advocacy foundation promoting self-esteem in women and girls. “The last thing you want to do is enter a new phase of your life holding on to old grudges,” she says. Practicing forgiveness is one of the most powerful ways to achieve a clean slate.

Clear clutter. Surrounded by piles of magazines, junk mail, gifts you never use or clothes you never wear? “If you haven’t looked at an item in a year, get rid of it,” advises interior decorator Lisa Turner.

See your dreams in Technicolor. Hang a corkboard in your bedroom or study, and fill it with photos of what you desire. Aiming to get promoted? Add pics of successful sisters like Oprah and Michelle Obama. Fantasizing about a vacation? Post images of your ideal destination. [See how to make one in this post.]

Get your beauty sleep. It combats stress, boosts energy and optimism, wards off high blood pressure and diabetes and even primes your body to shed pounds more easily. So invest in some silky sheets and luxuriate in dreamland for eight hours every night.

Consider your circle. Sometimes we outgrow friendships, but how do you know when it’s time to walk? Psychologist Brenda Wade says let a friend go if she or he is unwilling or unable to treat you with respect or kindness, leaving you feeling hurt or wounded.

Expect miracles. “Even if what is taking place in your life at the moment seems negative, expect God to bring good out,” says Joyce Meyer, a leading practical Bible teacher.

Find your true passion. Stacey Tisdale, coauthor of “The True Cost of Happiness,” suggests adapting an approach from life planner George Kinder. Ask yourself these three questions: 1) If money were not an issue, what would you do with your life?; 2) If your doctor informed you that you’d live without physical distress but would die in 10 years, what changes would you make?; 3) If you just had 24 hours, left on earth, what would be your regrets?

Photo from: Getty Images


Dear future Jamie

23 03 2010

Last week, as I was reading blogs, I came across a post, dear future me from Rosetta, creator of {diary of a happy black woman}. In the post, Rosetta writes about how she has five goals she wants to achieve within the next month, so she sent a letter to her future self reflecting on how she wants to feel when the goals are accomplished.

To do this, Rosetta used a site called Basically, you write a letter to your future self (hence the name) describing how you want your life to be in a month or even a few years. The site emails the letter to you at the end of that time period. You can keep the letter private or public and anonymous.

I know firsthand that writing down your goals is one key to achieving them, so I’m going to do one of these letters for myself for six months from now- which would be in September. I think it’s a great idea, and I’m really interested in seeing the resutls.

Oh yeah, if I make my letter public, I’ll come back and post the link. You can do one, too at

Edited to add: So, I can’t find the link to my future letter on the site, so I’ll just post it here:

Dear future me,

I am sooo happy and grateful for all the things that I have accomplished in six months. It’s so crazy how things can happen when you let go of everyhing that’s been holding you back and just trust God.

I’m finally {consistently} making the amount of money I want through my career, which I absolutely love! I am inspiring and empowering women through my blog and column as well, and it’s a great feeling.

I’m also fit, healthy and toned; I work out five days a week, and I’m drinking more water and less soda. My finances are under control; I have a set budget for my life (and the wedding) that I can work with. I also have an amazing, new apartment!

Things are looking up, and my life is fabulous! I knew you could do it! : )

Do you have a five-year plan?

17 03 2010
5 year plan

What's your five-year plan?

As you might know, I’m a firm believer in having goals and plans for your future. One of my mottos? “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” Now, I know life sometimes have other plans for us, but I still think planning is essential because it gives you something to reach for and lets you know how you’re progressing.

A couple of weeks ago, I was reading the forums on, and I came across a thread called, “What is your five year plan?”, and, of course, it got me thinking. Where do I see myself in five years? The questions the poster asked were:

Where do you see yourself in five years? When you close your eyes, what do you see? What have you achieved career-wise, spirtually and/or personally? How have you evolved as a person? How old are you now? What are you doing now to contribute to your five-year plan?

Let’s see…

How old am I now?

I’m 23, so I’ll be 28 in five years.

When I close my eyes, I see myself:

Happy, Successful, Loved, Loving (to name a few.)

What have I achieved career-wise, spiritually and/or personally? Some things I’ve achieved/how have I evolved:

  • I have a successful career as a copywriter & blogger
  • My DH (dear hubby) and I are financially stable
  • DH and I have a loving marriage (maybe a kid???)
  • I’ve started on my first book
  • I’m healthy, toned and in shape
  • I’m living outside of GA
  • My locs are semi-long (I don’t want them too long : )
  • I’m more spiritual (able to meditate for longer periods of time, I stay in the present, etc.)
  • I’m more patient, flexible, bold and cofident

What am I doing now to contribute to my five-year plan?

  • I work to have the career I want
  • I continuously work on my relationship with Chris
  • I try to motivate myself to workout a few days a week consistently (hey, it’s a struggle)
  • I try to take care of my hair more (that’s a struggle, too)
  • I attempt to meditate in the morning before I get out of bed
  • I try to go with the flow and be present wherever I am

Do you have a five-year plan (formal or informal?) Feel free to share (if you want) or if you’ve written a blog post about it, share the link!

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My Quote of the Day- January 22

22 01 2010

“Today, focus on taking the first step toward your most cherished goal.”

~Jane Powell

Make a contract to reach your goals

13 01 2010

Happy Wednesday, chicas! I subscribe to a website, called Meditations for Women, and I recieve daily emails with motivational articles. On Sunday, I got one called ‘Put Power Behind Your Goals’. In it, Jane Powell says a great way to formalize your goals and commitments is to write a contract to yourself. 

How do you do it? Spell out clearly and precisely as you can what your goals are, include step-by-step details of how and when you’re going to achieve them, sign and date the contract, share it with someone you trust and post it where you will see it. Your contract should also include how you’re going to reward yourself when you reach your milestones.

I, of course, decided to make one. You can check it out over here. If you decide to make one, let me know! I’d love to see it and support you!

My Quote of the Day- January 4

4 01 2010

“People with goals succeed because they know where they are going… It’s as simple as that.”

~Earl Nightingale

Goals for 2010

28 12 2009

Here are my goals for 2010 and my game plan for getting there:

Take my career to the next level and make $___

Game Plan

Obtain work (that I enjoy) to make x amount.

Get published in a national, consumer magazine (more than once).

Have at least two well-paying pieces published per month.

Have 50 subscribers by 12.31.10.

Redesign fcg site.

Attend networking events and really promote my service.

Continue honing my skills.

Revamp MW site and assist people through MW blog.

Get (and stay) fit and healthy!

Game Plan

Work out (including yoga) five times of week.

Eat healthier and cut back on soda and sugar.

Drink more water.

Meditate and clear my head daily.

Practice patience and see the good in everyone.

Exude positivity.

Have ‘me’ time at least once a week.

‘Mission: Fabulosity’

Game Plan

Play with my hair and try different styles.

Grow my hair to armpit length.

Play with more makeup and nail polish colors.

Always look fabulous and on point; rock my own style.

Get my finances right!

Game Plan

Handle student loans.

Budget and spend my money wisely.

Pay myself first.

Treat myself on occassion.

Become self-efficient.

Have fun!

Game Plan

Try new and different activities and food.

Take a few one day road trips.

Stay in contact with friends and family.

Do some things by myself (i.e., shopping, movies, etc.)

And of course, My Ultimate Goal: Live My BEST Life!