Feel Good Fridays: How to stay motivated to achieve your goals

26 03 2010

I know first hand that it can be difficult to remain motivated when working towards a goal- sometimes I feel discouraged, overwhelmed or just plain tired; I’m sure you sometimes feel the same way.

Last week, I saw an article by Shine staff member, Sarah McColl, with six ways you can stay motivated so you can achieve your goals:

Be specific. On a sheet of paper, write your goal at the top in big letters. If your goal is to exercise more, don’t just write “Exercise more”; be as specific as possible. For instance, write things like making it to the gym three times a week or being able to run a half marathon in a few months. By making your goal as quantifiable as possible, you’ll know exactly when you’ve accomplished it.

Remember why you’re doing this in the first place. McColl says when the going gets tough, the tough remember the initial reasons they wanted to achieve something. So, underneath the goal you’ve written on that sheet of paper, write all the reasons you want to accomplish that particular goal. Using the “exercise more” example, maybe you want to look and feel good in your clothing or you want to tone your body. Make your list as thorough as possible so on those days when you don’t feel like working out, one of your reasons will get you going.

Assemble a personal cheer squad. When we were kids, we always looked up to somebody, whether it was a sports star, an actress or an older cousin. But as some of us get older, we stop looking up to others. However, it’s important to remember that adults need someone to aspire to as well; so, build a team of role models. They can be real individuals in your life, celebrities or other successful individuals in the limelight or fictional characters. When you don’t have much motivation, McColl suggests picturing your supporters gathered around you, cheering you on and pushing you to greater heights than you could ever achieve on your own.

Check out the other three tips: 6 ways to stay motivated so you can achieve your goals.


Flyy Fridays: Beverly Johnson

19 03 2010

Since it’s Women’s History Month, this month’s Flyy Fridays will feature black models who have made their mark in fashion history. Today, it’s all about Beverly Johnson.

Born in October 1952, Beverly Johnson is the first black model to grace the covers of American “Vogue” and French “Elle” magazines. Johnson also helped alter the beauty standard in fashion and by 1975, every major U.S. fashion designer began working with black models.

Johnson has acheived much in her career, including:

  • Being featured on more than 500 magazine covers
  • Appearing on the covers of “Glamour,” “Cosmopolitan” and “Essence” magazines
  • Becoming one of the highest-paid models in the industry in the 1970s
  • Publishing two books: “True Beauty: Secrets of Radiant Beauty for Women of Every Age and Color” and “Beverly Johnson’s Guide to Life with Health and Beauty”
  • An acting career
  • Producing a collection of hair wigs and extensions (Beverly Johnson Hair Collection)
  • Being named on of the 20th Century’s 100 Most Influential People in the Fashion Industry by the New York Times
  • Being featured on the cover of Glamour’s 5oth anniversary issue

Recently, she has served as a celebrity judge on the TV Land reality show, She’s Got the Look.


Beverly Johnson

Sources: tvland.com, notablebiographies.com

Photos from: mollybloom.com, bet.com

Flyy Fridays: Naomi Sims

5 03 2010

Since it’s Women’s History Month, this month’s Flyy Fridays will feature black models who have made their mark in fashion history. First up is Naomi Sims.

Born in March 1948, Sims is credited with being with the first black supermodel. She accomplished a lot in her life. She:

  • Appeared in “Vogue” and on billboards for Virgina Slims cigarettes.
  • Was the first black woman to appear on the cover of “Ladies Home Journal” and the first black woman to appear on the cover of  “Fashion of the Times,” a supplement to the “New York Times.”
  • Also appeared on the covers of both “Life” and “Cosmpolitan” magazines.
  • Appeared on a national TV campaign for AT&T.
  • Designed a successful wig collection and makeup line for black women.

She passed away from breast cancer in August 2009. For more info on her, check out this post I wrote on her last year.



Photos from: thestylepage.blogspot.com, more.com

Flyy Fridays: Natural Hair Resources

19 02 2010

I’ve seen a few people on Facebook say they want to go natural, and some have told me they’re considering it. First, let me say I think going natural is one of the best events in the world (perhaps I’m a little biased, lol). If you are thinking about it, you probably have lots of questions. Well, here are some resources to help you out on your journey:

Nappturality– Includes articles, blogs and a forum

Going-Natural– Includes articles, interviews, tips and a forum

Kinnks Online– features resources, tools, history and advice for those with natural hair

Black Hair Media– features forums about pretty much everything, including natural hair

Loc Rocker– This loc journey blog is from the creator of Clumps of Mascara

Curly Nikki– Features interviews, articles, hair stories, product reviews and more

le coil– Gorgeous and inspirational photos of peeps with natural hair

Motown Girl– a “one stop shop” site for natural hair

Naturally Curly– advice and recommendations from those transitioning and fully natural; for women of all ethnicities

Photo from: fromgrandmaskitchen.com

Flyy Fridays: How to choose and wear perfume

5 02 2010

One of my favorite fragrances

Did you know that there are 1,270 brands of women’s fragrance available? (That’s a lot!) With that much available, it can be really hard to find one you love.

Well, here are three tips to help you find the right fragrance:



Test. Spray any fragrance you’re interested in on blotters and wait a few minutes for the alcohol to dry before sniffing. Smell your sleeve to clear your nose between testing each one. Choose up to four, and apply one on each inner wrist and outer forearm. Before choosing your favorite, let the scents settle for at least thirty minutes (several hours is preferable) so they can completely develop.

Check. The amount you apply and how often you reapply should be based on the scent’s concentration. For perfume, you only need a drop or two (it lasts up to 12 hours); for eau de parfum, use no more than three spritzes (it lasts around eight hours); and if you’re using mist eau de toilette, you can use it generously (it’s diluted and lasts around four hours).

Spritz. Apply the fragrance on your pulse points: the hollow of your neck, inner wrists and elbows and behind your ears and knees. Why? The warmth will subtly project scent.

Get more info on wearing perfumes from my source: Tips for Choosing and Wearing Perfumes

Photo from: perfumegifts.com

Flyy Fridays: You are beautiful!

22 01 2010

A post left by an Operation Beautiful reader

I think I read about Operation Beautiful on Autumn’s blog, but I really don’t remember- sorry! lol Anyway, I read about this blog a few months ago, and I think it’s so fabulous!

(from the website) Caitlin, Operation Beautiful’s editor, has a personal crusade in ending Fat Talk. With it, she wants to help people realize how toxic fat talk is and know that it hurts you emotionally, spiritually and physically.

After stumbling upon the website Gives Me Hope, Caitlin decided to start her own random act of kindness crusade. With just a pen and piece of paper, she began leaving positive messages on public bathroom mirrors in all kinds of places. She’d write things like, “You are beautiful” or “You are amazing just the way you are!”

Hundreds of women have joined the movement, and there is even an upcoming Operation Beautiful book. You can check out more info and see what you can do here.

Flyy Fridays: Alek Wek

8 01 2010

Alek Wek was born in Southern Sudan and was raised in the Dinka tribe. When she was just 14-years-old, she and her younger sister were forced to flee to London due to civil war and were later joined by her mom and siblings. Alek was discovered at a street fair there.

Since the launch of her modeling career, she’s been dubbed ‘Model of the Decade’ (i-D Magazine), ’50 Most Beautiful People’ (People’s Magazine) and ’50 Most Influental Faces in Fashion’ (i-D and Frank Magazines).

But Alek is more than a pretty face. She speaks in New York area schools to draw attention to the famine in Southern Sudan and to educate kids on the importance of nourishment; she helped lauch the Bracelet of Life campaign with Medicins Sans Frontiers/Doctors Without Borders; and she has worked closely with AIDS awareness benefits, breast cancer research and children’s charities.

I know a lot of people would disagree, but I think Alek is absolutely gorgeous, and I love her skin tone. I love her eclectic style and how she has risen to the top despite all that she’s been through (if you haven’t checked out her autobiography, ‘Alek: From Sudanese Refugee to International Supermodel’, you totally should). She also has this fabulous handbag and accessory line, Wek1933.

Anywho, here are some pics:


Photos from: sophisticatedafrican.wordpress.com, vogue.co.uk, madnews.wordpress.com