Ain’t I a (real) woman?

13 07 2009

I’m sure you’ve heard of the new Fox reality TV Show ‘More to Love.’ The show kind of bothers me. It’s not only the fact that women are on a reality show for a few weeks looking for “love” (that’s reality, right?), it’s also that these women are touted as ‘real women.’

Don’t get me wrong, I think plus-sized women are beautiful like all women, and I loved the movie Real Women have Curves. But the title and the fact people say and believe this, in my opinion, not cool. Well, not so much that they believe it, but that they believe it’s the authentic way to be.

I’m assuming a curvy woman is considered real because they’re not fake like thin women in Hollywood. However, I’m thin, and lots of other women are, too? So what does that make us? Little girls?

Well, that doesn’t make sense to me. I mean, I agree that every woman should love her body at any and every size, and if saying ‘real women have curves’ helps you feel better, then that’s awesome.  It’s just kind of insulting  that I’m not seen as real because I don’t have dangerous curves ahead.

I also understand that most women in America look like this (research shows that one out of three women wear a size 14), but let’s face it, there are naturally thin women as well. It may not be as many, but we’re out here!

And one of my biggest pet peeves is larger individuals feeling like it’s okay to call me (or anyone else) ‘skinny’ or ‘toothpick ‘ or any other name or phrase to make me feel bad about my size. (Can you say Mo’Nique?) I’ve made this argument many times, and people generally say the same things- it’s different because there is more discrimation against larger-sized people so it’s okay to critique thinner people. Well, I see it like this: no one should really judge or criticize anyone’s size, particularly if they don’t want it done to them.

So what’s the point? I’m really just venting but I really feel like the whole body image thing is a very serious issue no matter what size. I just wanted to point out the other side of the issue. That is all lol. What do you think?




3 responses

27 07 2009
Lauren Supraner

Sadly, I too, am a fake woman. Must be all that…what’s it called? MODERATION.

And as for More to Love: since when did whoring yourself on tv become “inspirational” just because your overweight?

28 07 2009

I really like this opinion more so then the other one I read on the blog reel. I myself am plus sized size 16 but I agree that no one should be made to feel bad because of their body. I saw a couple previews, haven’t watched the full show yet all the women look beautiful, but at the same time I don’t understand why fox feels the need to put their weight on the tv. I think that in itself is destructive to the shows “concept” I think if they were to create a “real woman show” Then they should have all women of all shapes and sizes, thin, thick, fat, skinny, but women who are confident in how they look and who aren’t judgemental of eachother. Anyways I’m talking to much but good job.

29 07 2009
Jamie Fleming

@jenn. Thanks, and I agree with you- if Fox, or any other show, wants to make a show with real women, they should include all types of women…

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